Charisma is the right word for what it is. Like bellissimo - they sound lovely and the words themselves make you feel like what they convey. If they were machinunk or klockda they sound ugly and bring on all the feelings of too abrupt. Like Carlin said about two of the seven words "Besides the literal translation and the emotional feeling. They're just busy words. There's a lot of syllables to contend with. And those K's. Those are aggressive sounds, they jump out at you. It's like an assault, on you." That's the thing about serenity - you just don't want to give it up even for a second. Being charismatic is being pre- or post- orgasmic. It's so lovely. It's not like fugly which makes you instantly want to wash your hands. You are in that place and you go outside and say "bellissimo" not "there's birdshit in the dam wall". Bellissimo. It's a form of denial, the old positive spin, the chorus of "Everything is beautiful". But if it really is, then say it to yourself. Billy Shakes thought it was bitter ( But O, how bitter a thing it is to look into happiness through another man's eyes.) as in you need to feel your own happiness. Some people are still living with eyes closed because way back when they didn't get that Karmann Ghia they really wanted. Doesn't matter - it's still bellissimo.